Only 30% of women can orgasm through intercourse alone! There are many women finding other ways to get the job done, i.e. experimenting with Sex Toys. Introduce the vibrator into the bedroom with fun and tact and you’ll add a whole new level to your sex play! If you all are totally new to Sex Toys, the following information is just what you need. If your partner is still not aware of you owning and using a Sex Toy, click here.
Approaching the subject before you bring the buzz.
Here’s a great starting point: did you know that according to a large number of surveys, men and women who are already committed to good steady relationships are more open than single people, to the concept of using vibrators and other sex toys?
Communication is an essential part of any relationship, and this subject is no exception. If it seems too uneasy to do this during a normal conversation, try making it part of your pillow talk! (Start with, “I think it would be so sweet/hot to …” We’re sure you’ll be able to continue the sentence). Gauge their reaction to see if it is something they would be interested in exploring and discuss it further if it is something they are excited about.
Tip: Share it as though the idea just popped into your head. If he gets the impression that you’ve been contemplating the thought for months, he’ll likely take your sex toy suggestion as a signal that you’re unsatisfied and looking for a solution. If your partner is against using a sex toy, buy one on your own and give it a solo test run. With time he might change his mind when he sees there’s nothing to be insecure about.
Search NottieDotti.com together or call them over to the computer, and ask them if anything catches their eye. Ladies, bring your boy because if he’s not part of the selection process, he’s missing out on most of the fun and might feel left out when you show him what you picked out.
For once, bigger isn’t better
Especially if this is your first time using sex toys together, it’s a good idea to start small with a bullet vibrator or a G-Spot vibrator. These toys can be used externally during penetration, so both partners can feel some good vibrations!
Turn a sweet massage into a spicy session
To introduce vibration into your relationship, start by using your vibrator as part of a sensual massage. The pulsations will help soothe tired muscles and send you to a state of blissful relaxation. Once the vibrator becomes a regular part of your foreplay, try moving it … lower.
“Share your toys” still applies
When using a vibrator together, take turns. Let each person experiment with different hot spots on the other’s body, and guide each other’s hands to the spots that feel best. And keep communicating and checking in with your partner. A simple “Is this good for you?” or “Do you like it when I …” can go a long way toward making your experience truly mind-blowing!
If you own a Sex Toy and your partner hasn’t tried it out with you yet or isn’t aware, you can follow these steps:
Have the Talk
Ideally, you want to be comfortable in bed with your partner and you don’t want to be at the end of an argument. This conversation needs to be natural and smooth. When it comes down to it, you can tell your partner about the benefits of sex toys, your desires and your hopes for making your sex life more exciting. You don’t want to demand anything else your introduction will backfire. The slower you go, and the more exultant you are of the benefits, the better things will go.
Introduce the Biggest Toys First
You want to start with the big toys first because you want everything else that comes after it to be no big deal. Once that initial shock has subsided, you can start experimenting. It is better to shock first instead of shock later, because it may ruin the mood.
This will be the most fun part because you and your partner can really get a feel for different toys. For instance, Vibrating Cock Rings can feel great for both partners. When you first start experimenting, go slow and communicate. If one doesn’t like something, it has to be communicated right away.
- Published in Sex Toy Guide